Chester Bennington’s death is still saddened me. He was my idol. I grew fond of Linkin Park because of him. On July 20th, 2017, he hanged himself in his home. I was in real disbelief when I heard the news.
I know that he struggled with depression and addictions for years. Some of Linkin Park’s songs reflect what he had been through. Depression is no joke. Someone in our family is still battling his demon.
So, today I would like to talk about why do people do suicide, know the signs, and how we can help them.
Why do people do suicide? Know the signs
Suicide is often the last resort when someone feels life problems cannot be resolved. However, this is not the case. You can prevent suicides from happening in your family, friends circle, etc if you know, the characteristics and causes of someone wanting to end his/her life.
A person’s response when facing a problem varies. Some are optimistic when they are experiencing many problems. Some are pessimistic while feeling inadequate and feeling that their life is no longer meaningful. This person’s response is influenced by how strong he or she is facing problems mentally.
Your mentality can be built on how your life experiences are lived. If you often get into trouble and can get through it just fine, there is a chance that you will become a strong person and will struggle to survive.
Then if you are a person who often experiences repeated failures and feel hopeless, this can also be a trigger of suicide.
Also, the feeling of being disrespected, comparing life with other people’s lives, not to mention social pressures such as bullying, will make you experience stress. Stress that is not managed properly will cause you to become depressed.
Depression leads to suicidal thoughts. This is no longer a taboo subject. WHO stated that there are about 800.000 people die every year because of suicide. That means a person dies every 40 seconds. According to the CDC, the number of deaths of all suicides (firearm, suffocation, poisoning) in America is close to 50.000 cases. Suicides sit on rank 10 as the cause of death in America.
What causes someone to want to commit suicide?
The desire to end life can be based on the following factors:
Depression is a mental illness, but the symptoms are rather difficult to recognize or realize. Often someone realizes something is wrong with himself, but he does not know how to get out of trouble.
Likewise, when someone is gloomy and always closes himself up, sometimes people assume and think it is the character of someone lazy or even not very sociable.
Depression also often makes someone thinks that no one loves him anymore, makes someone regrets his life, or even thinks if he dies there is nothing to lose.
2. The existence of impulsive attitude
Impulsive means to do something based on impulse. Impulsiveness is not necessarily bad, there is always a bright side. Impulsive people can do things spontaneously
But impulsive people usually become careless and tend to be reckless. Unfortunately, this impulsive behavior can be dangerous if coupled with the emergence of negative thoughts, the risk of causing him to think quickly to end his life with suicide.
Also read: CBT for Negative Thinking – Will it help?
3. Social problems
Some people intend not to commit suicide. Unfortunately, because the person can not survive and get out of the social problems faced, he finally chose suicide.
Social problems such as being ostracized, bullying, or even being betrayed can trigger people to think about ending their life. Some people thinks that by harming themselves, this can make people who hurt them wake up.
4. Philosophy about death
Some people have different philosophies about death. People who have suicidal thoughts do not want to end their life, but they actually want to end the pain they are experiencing. Pain here can refer to a pain caused by a terminal illness.
These people are not depressed. They see no chance for life, so choose their destiny by accelerating to end the pain.
5. Other mental illnesses
The Psychological Autopsy study found that in suicides there was found one or more diagnoses of mental illness in 90% of people who committed suicide. The study also found one in twenty people who suffer from schizophrenia end their lives. Suicide cases are also found in personality disorders such as antisocial, borderline, and narcissistic personality disorder.
Other factors to watch out for, such as:
A bad experience that triggers trauma
Trauma that occurs during childhood can form in a person’s subconscious mind. In the end, it will be difficult to get out of the trauma. The trauma will hold someone back, even if someone is unable to forgive and make peace with oneself for the bad things that happened to him. The fatal impact, he risked suicide.
Also read: PTSD Trauma in Children
Genetic hereditary history can also cause a person to commit suicide. If any of your family has a history of suicide, you need to practice positive thinking when you have serious problems or under any circumstances, keep thinking positive.
Sign of someone who wants to commit suicide – Warning signs of suicidal behavior
You can observe a sign that someone wants to commit suicide if there is a change in behavior that occurs in your family or relatives. It could be that the person is unable to face their problems and requires help.
There are several signs of a suicidal person, such as:
- Always talks in despair, sounds depressed
- Always talks about death
- Taking actions that lead to death, such as reckless driving, doing extreme sports without caution, or taking excessive doses of drugs
- Losing interest in the things he or she likes
- Speaking or posting things with troubled words. Saying that there is no hope for him or her and that they feel worthless
- Saying something that blames him or her like “this won’t happen if I’m not here” or the assumption “they would be better without me”
- Drastic mood swings, from sad to suddenly feeling happy
- Talking about death and suicide
- Saying goodbye to someone, even though he has no plans going anywhere.
- Severe depression that makes him or her has sleep disorders
What to do if someone is suicidal? How to handle it?
Every problem has a solution, no matter how hard it is, the problem will also end. All you need to do if you or your relatives experience signs of wanting yourself is to seek professional help, visit a therapist.
Hang out with positive and supportive people. Always remember, that life is temporary, your problems are only temporary without having to end your life. Everyone on earth is valuable and can have a good role, and most importantly never give up.
If your friend or relative is in trouble and is discouraged, you should be a good listener. Try to persuade going to a therapist, but don’t argue about death or suicide. People who are having severe problems, tend not to think rationally. Keep encouraging.
When people are depressed, generally the drug used in treatment is an antidepressant. I suggest you consult a doctor first before using it.
How to help someone who is suicidal?
3 Important Rules for Helping People Who Are Suicidal
When someone close to you ever says something that sounds like he or she is considering suicide, or wants to be serious about it, this cannot be taken lightly. You might not be sure what to do to help them, whether you should worry about this problem, or if your intervention might make the situation worse.
Individuals who have suicidal tendencies may not ask for help, but that does not mean he or she does not need a helping hand from those around him. Most people who have tried or want to kill themselves do not want to die – they just want the pain they feel to stop.
Taking immediate action is the best choice and can save someone’s life. This is how you do it.
1. Initiate a conversation by asking questions
Talking with friends or family members about suicide topics and what they experienced can be difficult. However, even if you’re not sure how to get started, asking questions is a great opening.
Start with ease, like starting a daily conversation:
- Lately, I’m worried about your situation.
- It’s been a long time since we talked together, how are you?
- I just wanted to check you out, I think there is something that is really on your mind. Are you OK?
- I’ve noticed, you’ve always been sad lately. Why?
If the conversation starts to lead to the actual topic, you can ask open-ended questions, for example:
- Have you ever hurt yourself?
- Do you want to kill yourself? – You’re not trying to “brainwash” them with this question. Instead, you show that you are really worried, and you take this problem seriously and that it is okay for him to share the suffering he is facing with you.
- Is this desire still there?
- Have you ever thought about how or when you would do it?
- Since when did you start feeling this way? What makes you want to do it?
- (If you have ever attempted suicide) When did you do it?
- How do you feel after doing it?
Show your interest and presence. Try not to influence what they say, instead allow them to speak honestly and openly. Open-ended questions like the one above will encourage them to keep talking. Avoid statements that can end the conversation, such as “I get what you mean” or “don’t worry too much about it.”
By asking questions, we let the other person be in control of the conversation direction while also allowing them to express how they feel.
Asking questions about suicidal thoughts or thoughts will not encourage the person to do things that are likely to harm themselves. Offering to be someone to confide in and opportunities to open up can reduce the risk of a person committing suicide.
How to tell someone you’re suicidal
No matter how hard it is, please talk to someone. Look for help from a professional psychologist or therapist if you started to have suicidal thoughts. Let them know when you experience mood-swings, that you feel hopeless, start consuming alcohol and drugs, and want to say goodbye to your family or friends as if you will never see them again.
2. Listen, don’t judge or lecture
Suicide is a person’s desperate attempt to escape from the unbearable bondage of suffering. Blinded by feelings of self-loathing, hopelessness, and isolation, he could see no other way of getting help than death. Even so, even if they are overwhelmed by a strong desire to stop the pain, they will generally experience inner conflicts about trying to end their own life. They hoped there was a way out other than suicide, but they could see no other option.
Talking about someone’s problems is not always easy and you may be tempted to offer solutions. But often the most important thing you can do to help them is simply to listen to what they have to say. It is important not to be judgmental about how a person thinks and behaves.
Don’t argue about the right or wrong aspects of suicide, or whether the feelings they’ve been experiencing are right or wrong. Also, don’t give a “lecture” on the values of life when you want to help someone who is suicidal.
You may feel that some aspects of their thinking and behavior are making the situation worse. For example, they drink too much alcohol or can’t stop hurting themselves. However, trying to “rectify” them. This will not bring them much benefit. The assurance that they are not alone, respect, care, and support can help them get through this difficult time.
3. Get help
Treat any attempt to end one’s own life as an emergency.
Talking about feelings can help them feel safe and calm, but these feelings may not last long.
Do not swear secrecy with suicidal people. Take immediate action – remove or dispose of any sharp and dangerous objects, or other objects that could be used to end life – and seek outside help (psychologists, doctors, psychiatrists, and police), if you are not sure how to take further action.
If there is an emergency, be sure not to leave them alone. Often times people who attempt suicide are treated only in the Emergency Room, without further consultation with a psychiatrist about the issues behind the cause. Data admitted to the hospital generally only recorded the final action performed by the patient such as poisoning and was not recorded as a suicide attempt.
Perhaps he or she needs a more comprehensive long-term support system to help them deal with these negative thoughts. Outside help is important because most people who intend to commit suicide prefer to keep quiet and keep their problems to themselves.
Professional assistance will make it easier for both of you. Not only will a professional team help her to solve the issues behind her suicidal tendencies, but they will also provide support and advice for you and those closest to you.
Beware of copycat suicide.
Teenagers are the most vulnerable group to suicidal behavior. This includes copycat suicide. It’s a suicide that happens by copying a previous suicide case. For example, copying the way their idols took their lives.
The cases in question include, among other things, suicide exposed by the mass media. Therefore, any information that is retrieved via the Internet, must be filtered out. In this case, the content contains information that encourages a person’s suicidal thoughts.
Note from WeStressFree: Cherish your life
Please don’t end your life just because you have too many problems that weigh you down. Think about people around you that you’d left behind if you did it. Your parents, siblings, close friends. They might be the next person who will get depressed if you chose to do it. Mental illness is serious. Find help. Be open to the chances that your future will be better.
However, if you experience symptoms of depression, have suicidal feelings, or know someone is having suicidal thoughts, please call the police call center.
If you are a resident in America, you can dial 911. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is available for 24/7, call 1-800-273-8255 (language: English and Spanish).
You can also try to contact the nearest psychiatric hospital or clinic for first aid.
Stay safe, happy, and healthy my friends.
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